Monthly Archives: May 2011

Weekly Weigh-in: Week 3

So, I didn’t go to WW this morning. Fail.  But I did get to spend last night slumber partying with my love Cousin J, who just moved back to Oklahoma from Louisiana. Woo hoo! She’s moving to T-town this fall and I couldn’t be happier. Last night I showed her around town a bit and treated her to some delicious Elote.  So no weigh-in. Alas, sometimes, that’s life.

In exactly, 8 days I will put on a swimsuit for the first time this year. Eep. I think that is excellent motivation to continue to work hard and eat well for the next week and to definitely make my weigh-in next Thursday! But additional accountability is always a good thing so I bring you my workout plan for the next week-ish:

Friday (PM): 45+ min cardio, Lower Body Weights, Abs

Saturday (AM): 45+ min cardio, Abs

Sunday (PM): 45+min cardio, Abs, Yoga video

Monday: (AM) – Cardio warm up, Upper Body Weights; (PM) – 45 minute Spin class

Tuesday: (AM) – 45+ min Cardio; (PM) – Stair climbing

Wednesday: (AM) – Cardio warm up, Lower Body Weights; (PM) – 45 minute Spin class

Thursday: (PM) – Stair climbing, 45+ min Cardio

Friday: (AM) Cardio warm up, Upper Body Weights

I know it looks semi-intense, but the two-a-days are temporary.  Although, I may try to incorporate them a few days a week post-Memorial Day weekend to prep for Miami. (T-minus 48 days!!!) And to give myself even more accountability, you can follow me on twitter (@QtrLifeConfused) where I’ll be tweeting about all of my workouts! I’m really looking forward to a restful, sun-filled (fingers crossed) Memorial Day Weekend. Now, I’ve just got to find a Target with the swimsuit I want and I’ll be ready to go!

*Click on image for source.

What does your workout schedule look like pre-Memorial Day? Do you have any fun plans?

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Something Borrowed: Movie Review

On Sunday night I went to see Something Borrowed, with several of my girlfriends.  I read the book, by Emily Giffin, several years ago at the urging of Miss Rose, Miss PoliSci, and Miss H.  If you haven’t read the book or watched the movie yet, BEWARE OF SPOILERS ahead.

A summary from Goodreads:

“Rachel White is the consummate good girl. A hard-working attorney at a large Manhattan law firm and a diligent maid of honor to her charmed best friend Darcy, Rachel has always played by all the rules. Since grade school, she has watched Darcy shine, quietly accepting the sidekick role in their lopsided friendship. But that suddenly changes the night of her thirtieth birthday when Rachel finally confesses her feelings to Darcy’s fiance, and is both horrified and thrilled to discover that he feels the same way. As the wedding date draws near, events spiral out of control, and Rachel knows she must make a choice between her heart and conscience. In so doing, she discovers that the lines between right and wrong can be blurry, endings aren’t always neat, and sometimes you have to risk everything to be true to yourself.”

I enjoyed the film, and really enjoyed seeing it with some of my fave ladies.  I thought it was pretty accurate to the book and well-cast.  (John Krasinski is not surprisingly hilarious and Ginnifer Goodwin is adorable, as usual. I’m not entirely sold on Kate Hudson as Darcy but we’ll see how that pans out in the follow-up film — if they make it, Something Blue.) But something about it completely rubbed me the wrong way. I remember feeling similarly about the book.

I want a house in the Hamptons for the summer.

As you can gather from the summary above, Rachel (GG) starts having an affair with Dex (the delicious Colin Egglesfield) who is engaged to her lifelong bestie Darcy (KH).  The way the book is written and the way the story is told in the movie seems to urge the reader/viewer to pull for Rachel to win the heart of Dex, to the detriment of her best friend.  As someone who adores her friends and values all of their friendships, there is something about it that feels so wrong.  The movie does not play up Rachel’s moral dilemma as much as the book does (it would be hard to do), but still, Rachel ultimately chooses her own happiness at the expense of the person she has loved the most.  It really gets under my skin.  I cannot imagine doing that to a friend, or even worse, what it would feel like for a friend to do it to me.

On the flip side, Rachel is so easy to relate to — nice, smart, rule-following good girl who has always felt like she lived in Darcy’s shadow.  You want her, the unlikely victor, to get the super hot wonderful guy that Darcy seemingly does not deserve or appreciate.  Every girl has had a friend who is personified by Darcy’s character,  a self-centered frenemy to whom life just comes easier.  Some small, slightly evil part of me, does not feel badly for Darcy when she finds out about Rachel and Dex.  And then I feel insanely guilty about thinking even for a second that any woman deserves to be treated that way by another woman, especially one she loved enough to call maid-of-honor.

In the movie, things wrap up really nicely for Rachel and Dex.  Sure, Rachel loses Darcy but it doesn’t seem to bother her all that much because she got the guy.  (Don’t even get me started on the message that sends.)  I know it is unrealistic because it’s a movie, but come on, this is really unrealistic.  Cheating and calling off weddings and ending friendships is so messy, but it really isn’t portrayed that way.  I feel like in a way the movie and book glorify cheating or at the very least, offer the justification that it’s okay to steal someone else’s fiancé if you loved them first (but never bothered to stick up for yourself about it when you had the chance…).

I guess the heart of it for me is that I don’t believe that it is okay to really intentionally hurt someone just because you will get what you want.  For me the lines aren’t blurry. It seems really, really black and white. I can’t wrap my head around a scenario in which I would be able to justify behaving like Rachel (or Dex).  According to the movie poster, there is a “thin line between love and friendship.”  I hope none of my friends feel that way because I certainly don’t.

Have you seen the movie or read the book? What do you think?

* Click on images for sources.

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Weekly Weigh-In: Week 2

I can’t believe it has been a week since my last post.  I guess I haven’t been feeling very inspired lately. Thanks for hanging with me anyway. This week I worked on eating most of my points for breakfast/lunch/snacks and then having a much lighter dinner.  I think it went really well.  The results of this week’s WW weigh-in:

Weekly Gain/Loss:  – 1.6 pounds

Total Gain/Loss:  – 5.0 pounds

At WW, they like to recognize lots of milestones on the road to your goal weight — 5% of your weight lost, 10% of your weight lost, 16 weeks of membership, and every 5 pounds you lose.  For me these milestones make up mini-goals to aim for along the way. So today, I hit my first baby goal — 5 pounds down!

My 5 pound star! The picture was much better on my phone. Fail.

The topic at the WW meeting this week was people who support/don’t support your weight loss efforts.  The leader mentioned something about a lot people being closet WWers — i.e. they don’t tell their friends and/or family that they are on WW or trying to make healthy lifestyle changes.  I was in the closet for a really, really long time with my weight loss challenges so this really struck a chord with me.

I’ve been trying to lose weight off and on since I was 16.  I have tried almost everything you can try: WW, Body-for-Life, the Grapefruit Diet, simple calorie counting, weight loss pills, etc.  (For the record, my greatest success came while on WW in 2008 – I lost 25 pounds.)  I used to be really secretive about my attempts to lose weight.  I think there are several reasons for this including that when I was young I didn’t want anyone to know that I truly struggled with food.  As a 16/17-year-old athlete, you would like to think that worrying about what you were eating wouldn’t be a huge issue, but for me it was.  (Ah, what I wouldn’t give to go back to that 145-pound svelte volleyball player/cheerleader…) I felt embarrassed and I felt like if I admitted that I was trying to lose weight then I was also admitting that I was fat.

As I got older, pride started coming into play in a way as well.  I thought that if I pretended my size didn’t bother me and that if I didn’t act like I thought I looked bad, then no one else would be bothered or think that I looked overweight.  For a while, this seemed to work.  In the few times I did tell people how much I weighed they always seemed surprised and I prided myself on carrying my weight well.

But eventually, as I got bigger and bigger, these coping and defense mechanisms stopped working for me.  And somehow (although I honestly can’t recall how), I ended up here,  putting my weight loss struggle out there for the whole internet to see.  The funny thing is, it isn’t really the whole world who is aware of it because of this blog. It’s my friends.  It is the people who I hold the closest to my heart that I have hidden my struggle from for so long who now know how hard it is for me sometimes.

The beautiful part is that by telling people how much being overweight sucks and how much I want to feel better physically and emotionally, I gave my friends the opportunity to show me love and support.  By sharing some of my most secret feelings, I have deepened my relationships and learned to appreciate how much the people who love me actually love me.  My family has always supported my weight loss efforts but now I have an even broader network of people who are willing to openly celebrate my successes and share in my struggles and split a salad with me after spin class.  I think that some/most of my friends have probably known for a long time that I was unhappy with my weight on some level, but now we can talk about it.  Now, they can help me in ways that I wasn’t open to before because I didn’t want to talk about it.  Being closed-off about my weight shut out my potentially biggest support base.

If I could go back maybe I would have shared more sooner, but maybe I wouldn’t have.  It took me ten years to get to this place and as difficult as it has been, it was also an important part of my process.  So today, I want to thank my friends for their continued love, support and encouragement.  You guys rock my world every day.

Is it difficult for you to open up to people about your weight struggles?  Who do you turn to for support?

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Weekly Weigh-In: Week 1

Okay, I know technically this should be my week 2 but last week as a gigantic catastrophe which I will explain shortly. So this morning, I hit up my WW meeting for the first time since my April restart. And (drum roll please….) things went well!

Weekly Gain/Loss:  – 3.4 pounds

Total Gain/Loss:  – 3.4 pounds

Thank goodness! I’d love to say that this was the result of two weeks of diligence and hard work, but that would totally be a lie.  Last Tuesday Mom QLC took a spill in her parking garage at work and shattered both wrists.  No bueno.  So Tuesday night was spent at the hospital.  And while she was in surgery, I started feeling badly.  By Wednesday morning feeling badly was a full-blown stomach virus that took about five days to run its course. I was les miserables.  I spent the early parts of this week working to get back to normal and trying to not gain back all of the weight I lost from being sick. I think it went pretty well actually.

In other news:

1) I registered for the Tour de Cure with fellow bloggers, Fat Ass to Fit Ass and Miss PR.  Tour de Cure is an annual cycling event raising money for the American Diabetes Association.  The event is June 4th and I have signed up to ride 25 miles. If you’re interested in supporting me/Team Fat Ass, click here! (And thanks!)

2)  Due to Mom QLC’s significant injuries, she won’t be able to ride a bike for a while. As a result, the fam decided to forgo our planned Freewheel trip this year. I’m kind of bummed, but I felt ill-prepared at this point so maybe it will be for the best. I can get my cycling fill in during the Tour de Cure and the MS 150 (Team Red Lantern Cycling is back in action!).

Our hotel - The Marriott South Beach

3) Only 62 days until Miami! I seriously cannot wait for this trip. I have countdown calendars at work and at home.  I don’t think I’ve been on a real vacation (with a plane and a beach and more than a long weekend) since my post-bar Mexico trip with Miss Dubs.  So far the trip has served as excellent motivation for eating well and exercising.  I want to feel good while I am there. I don’t want to worry about feeling super self-conscious.  It will be really nice to just enjoy myself knowing that I worked hard to look and feel the best I possibly could while I am there.

My goals for the coming week are to finally get my life back, haha. Being sick and helping take care of my mom got me all kinds of off kilter.  I’m ready to make a menu and go to the grocery store and be a little bit normal.  Miss PoliSci and I are also discussing signing up for a Couch-to-5k program with a local running store for some additional accountability.  I’ve started the program twice but for a variety of reasons (cough, excuses, cough) haven’t kept up with it. I would like to get my running legs back under me since it is the easiest way for me to workout at the lake in the summer time.

What goals are you working on this week? How are you preparing for shorts/swimsuit weather and summer trips?

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